Before we get into today’s sexts, I want to address something that’s come up in a few emails I’ve received about this series. I’ve gotten some great feedback about what people find sexy, and what they don’t. A few people wanted to let me know, too, that the language I’m using sometimes could be off-putting for some, or just plain turn-off material, even if they don’t have a strongly negative reaction to it.
So in light of that, I’d like to clarify something:
Not all of this language will appeal to everyone out there. I am fully aware of this, and I want you all to be too. I made a few disclaimers throughout these posts that you need to do a little exploration with your partner to see what kinds of things turn them on, what kinds of language turns them on, and what kinds of words they find sexy for their “passionate parts.” (I had a webinar on finding your “Language of Sex” that talked about this exact thing…) The words I have used in the examples are not necessarily the words others will choose… One of my favorites for my genitals is “cunt,” and that’s a very polarizing word for many.
The thing I want to impress on you the most is that everyone is different. Most of these are things that *I* like, and many of them have worked with lovers I have had in the past and present. To borrow one of my primary partner’s favorite phrases: Your mileage may vary.
Once again I will urge you strongly to know your audience. Ease into this kind of play with new lovers, and even take things slowly with lovers you have known for a while. Once you feel out (pun intended) the propensities and preferences of the person you’re engaging with, maybe you can take some risks with language or content. Better yet, use it as a way of opening conversation about what kinds of things turn your partner on! Then you can describe those things in sexy messages, and really have a steamy time with your mobile devices. ;-D
The big take-away I’m hoping people have around these sexting messages is that there are many directions you can go that might yield fun and sexy results, and I hope this encourages you to try some things you may not have thought of, with sexy results…
Ok, disclaimer ended. On to the sexts!
Today’s installment includes a handful (heh heh) of things that I might have missed in earlier episodes, and a few things that are seasonally appropriate.
Also, I *finally* found a sexting site that had some worthwhile stuff on it: SexyText101.com. Some of these are adapted from there, although I prefer coming up with my own in the moment. The majority of sexting is really about the exchange, and how you play off of each other’s responses… Yet another thing to bear in mind when sexting. 😉
Here’s a tip, too, something I think is fun and flirtatious: try sending some sexy messages to your lover when you’re actually in the same room! This can be a fun way to pique their interest.
- If I put on a bow, will you unwrap me tonight?
- So, the the nights are pretty long right now… Let’s make the most of that tonight, shall we?
- I may not want to sit on Santa’s lap, but I’m very interested in sitting on yours.
- If you could have any gift from me in bed, what would you want? I’ll try to figure out a way to put it under the tree, but if I can’t, I might just give it to you… (Pun intended. ;-))
- Let’s play madlibs… “I want to [___] your [___]!” or “I want you to [___] my [___]!” (A great response to these might actually be “I’ll fill in your blanks, baby!” Yeah it’s silly, but silly can be sexy sometimes, too!)
- Who needs a spankin? You have two options… choose wisely!
- Your wish is my command. How many wishes can you think of?
- I can only hope and pray it feels as good for you as it does for me.
- When I think of you I get light-headed… I think it has to do with the fact that all my blood heads south. ;-D
- Can you take some time to make me scream soon, or should I plan on doing it myself and telling you about it later? 😉
- (Bonus, since this is the last episode. You’re welcome. :-D)
- Every time I close my eyes, I see you naked, just so you know… I like seeing you naked with my eyes open even more!